How To Overcome That Sense Of Insecurity

“The opposite of security is insecurity, and the only way to overcome insecurity is to take risks.”

Theodore Forstmann

I experimented a feeling of insecurity many times in my early adolescence and especially during the college periods.

Do you know why? Because I had a very caricatured image of myself these days.

I did not really know myself so it was very difficult to build optimal relations with men and women.

The problem with my shyness taken a big part of my first 30 years cause I never feel ready to start successfully relationship both of sentimental and professional type
But there was an exact turning point in my life, exactly when I was forced to speech en public during my Master to present the breefing of my work group.

At this point I decided to play my role and to take my responsibilities until the end of the game.

Making the effort, I realized something good and unexpected was going to originate from my interior.

For the first time in my life I was able to change my caricatured image in a completely different image, an image of successful professional, an image of successful man, able to communicate well to the others and also I was finally well appreciated.

That was the first time I had to admit to myself that our potential is like a one hundred levels skyscraper of which we have decided to only live the first floor, while the 99 others are still not liveable!

Obviously this is a metaphor to say that many times we prefer not to take any risk and then to rest into our mediocrity.

It does not matter if the first time we feel clumsy and ungainly, this is normal, but more important thing is to put our effort on and to take some risks!

This simple act is an extraordinary gesture; it can really make the difference in our lives!

So take you risk and go! That sense of insecurity will vanish soon!

Time Is Not Always Related To Money

"Time is neutral and does not change things. With courage and initiative, leaders change things."

Jesse Jackson

Time is money. Right? Wrong!

Time is money only if you have opportunities, knowledge and correct thoughts, otherwise nothing cannot be done!

There are people that have a lot of time but they don't have money, for example the prisoners.

There are rich people with so much leisure time to their disposition, but don't know what to do! They annoy!

There are then very worn-out people, who never have time for anybody neither for them, same, and unbelievable but true, they don't have enough money or they would like more always of it.

Why there are so many differences in the way according to which the live have people, do you have ever thought about this?

It is evident that time = money is not a correct equation, if not in very approximate way.

What does it miss? The thoughts. The way according to which we use our mind is fundamental.

Thousand times I proved this to myself, at first hand!

That's why I insist so much on the thoughts. Without the mastery of the own thoughts there is no real personal growth, even if you read all the books of the world.

If you want to improve yourself not only you need more knowledge to acquire, but also you will have above all to integrate it with your thoughts and your beliefs, before putting new knowledge in practice!

How To Face Toward Your Fears

"Consult not your fears but your hopes and your dreams. Think not about your frustrations, but about your unfulfilled potential. Concern yourself not with what you tried and failed in, but with what it is still possible for you to do."

Pope John XXIII

If you knew to be able to face any situation, would you have something to fear?

Obviously no.

The fear is the technique used by the nature to prepare to defend you to you from the danger.

You dread when you anticipate a loss or a pain.

You are afraid of what you believe must be fears.

But if you have trust in your ability to face every situation, here that automatically you minimize the fear.

Your safety not comes from what you have, but from knowing to be able to face any eventualities.

You can begin to minimize your fears facing them.

Once established of which you are afraid, therefore you act in the best way to eliminate the threats that your fears provoke.

To act on the fear is much better than living feeling oneself incapable and impotent.
The main four fears that sabotage your ability to use the optimal thought are: the fear of the failure, of the refusal, of the success and of the pain.

Remember: to act and to face toward your fears is the only way to dissipate them.