Toward Self-Honesty

"It is hard to believe that a man is telling the truth when you know that you would lie if you were in his place."

Henry Louis Mencken

The greatest obstacle to our personal growth is inside us.

It is more exactly the way according to which we think that who prevents often from becoming what we are.

If you want indeed to make giant footsteps, you have sooner or later need to settle up with yourselves and particularly with the auto-honesty.

If you ever asked yourself who you are trying to deceive with your way of thinking and your behaviour checked by the outside and you have concluded that is wrong to pull whoever's leg, because this way you also pull yours leg, then you are on the good road to reach the total self-honesty.

Perhaps you have already succeeded in identifying some of the defences and the falsehoods that you had adopted up to this moment.

If it is so, the next footstep to reach self-honesty doesn't impose you to confess, neither to feel yourself guilty for what you have done in the past.

It is simply necessary to accept the fact that some of your past choices were misleading, then to settle up with such choices, trying day by day to beat them submitting you to your internal signals.

Self-honesty means to get rid oneself of the need to measure one's own value according to the external terms and to observe instead oneself more objectively with the intention to live the way you want to live the present and not to try at any cost "to be as you have always been".

Self-honesty imposes you to testify your strength and your weakness in a much more realistic way, it imposes you to identify the defences that you have erected against the inside signals and it imposes you to work for eliminating them from your every day life.