“The rate at which a person can mature is directly proportional to the embarrassment he can tolerate.”
Douglas Engelbart
Often among adolescents these sentences are repeated: "When will you grow!" "You are always a child". "Why you behave as a child?"
Dichotomy maturity vs. childish is almost exclusively used to insult the others and is not practically ever used by those people that have a true trust in himself/herself and know how to think for himself/herself.
In effects, in our culture it comes particularly used by the teen-agers when they want to mortify other teen-agers.
At school, girls consider themselves more mature than boys and often they judge a boy as mature or childish.
These girls are those whose face is smeared, they wear stuffed bras and they stop playing.
For quite a lot years they don't know how to do anything else other than to give judgments on her “maturity” of the people.
The worse insult that one can be receive is to be considered “immature.”
And who are those that they (the girls) consider “mature?”
The best fighters, the biggest, the tallest, the more bully, the more absolutists and, in short, the mature boys more superficially.
Whoever can have an immature idea on what in reality it is the human maturity, above all if one is never detained to think what understood maturity can be in the higher sense.
On my opinion the first true footstep toward the maturity, consists of recognizing that nobody is completely child or completely adult and that it would be a well sad thing if someone were it.
Who behaves in capricious, or foolish way, as immature in some occasion, he/she is also able to react in serious and responsible way in other circumstances.
The adult that is strictly monitored, organized, orderly and complete at work, he/she could be also able to let himself/herself go, to behave as fool, to be childish in certain circumstances.
The fact that someone is brought to encourage the others to act according to rigid behaviours arbitrarily defined mature, it doesn't try anything else other than if not the presence of a dichotomous thought.
This dichotomous thinking originally ignores the holistic phenomenon of each of us and always a little child and a little adult, a little mature and a little immature, until there will be life.
To follow to a self-declarated "behaviour of maturity" represents a serious limitation.
In this way you cannot feel new and exciting experiences and, more important thing, you won't ask you what really is human growth.
You won't see its unlimited nature, you won't be able to expand and to constantly revise your philosophy to decide what person's type you want to be and finally you will stop growing.
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